By Daily Mail (U.S.) | Created at 2024-11-20 17:40:56 | Updated at 2024-11-23 21:49:05
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A woman has questioned if she is in the wrong for dumping her boyfriend after discovering that he is a porn star six months into their whirlwind romance.
The unnamed 23-year-old took to Reddit to detail the shocking incident that saw her learning of her boyfriend's X-rated side hustle.
She revealed that they had been dating for six months and everything was going well until one of her pals sent her a link to her lover's raunchy films.
Stunned, the woman broke up with her boyfriend, 24, but she is now questioning if she went 'too far.'
She shared the situation in a thread titled Am I The A**hole, as she begged people to offer up advice.
The woman revealed that her crush insisted that it 'wasn't a big deal,' however, she felt like she got 'the ground ripped out from under her.'
She questioned if she was in the wrong for cutting ties after finding out about her boyfriend's saucy secret.
The post was titled: 'Am I the a**hole for breaking up with my boyfriend after finding out he's in adult films?'
A woman has questioned if she is in the wrong for dumping her boyfriend after discovering that he is a porn star six months into their whirlwind romance (stock image)
The woman explained: 'So, I (23F) broke up with my boyfriend (24M), and now I'm stuck questioning if I went too far. We'd been together for six months, and everything felt great.
'He's funny, sweet, and we had this amazing chemistry. He works as a mechanic (or at least that's what I thought), and I've always admired how hardworking he seemed.'
However, their seemingly perfect relationship quickly turned sour when she was sent a link to one of her boyfriend's films.
'A few days ago, though, my friend sent me a link that changed everything. She somehow came across a clip of him in an adult film. At first, I thought she was crazy, but curiosity got the better of me, and I watched it (don't judge me, I needed to confirm).
'And yeah, it was definitely him his face, his tattoos, everything. I felt like the ground had been ripped out from under me,' she added.
The 23-year-old decided to confront her boyfriend about his shocking secret.
However, his admission only made their romance even more strained.
'When I confronted him, he didn't even try to deny it. He admitted that while he works full-time as a mechanic, he's been doing adult films on the side for extra money.
The unnamed 23-year-old took to Reddit to detail the shocking incident that saw her learning of her boyfriend's X-rated job
'He claimed it's "just work" and insisted it's not a big deal, but I felt completely betrayed. He never once mentioned it to me, and the fact that he kept it hidden for six months made me wonder what else he might be hiding.
'Then, he turned it around on me, saying I was being judgmental and hypocritical,' the Reddit user revealed.
The couple's issues heightened as they spent 'hours' arguing about his raunchy double life.
Finally, the woman decided to cut her boyfriend out and end things with him.
However, she is now seeking the advice of social media users as she questions whether she did the right thing.
At the end of the post, she said: 'We argued for hours. He said I'm close-minded and that I don't understand the industry, but I couldn't get over the fact that he lied (or, okay, omitted such a massive part of his life). I ended things, telling him I couldn't be in a relationship where I felt like this kind of trust was missing.
'Now, I'm overthinking everything. Was I being too harsh? Should I have been more understanding? Or was it fair for me to feel blindsided and betrayed?
'Am I the a**hole?'
People on the web flocked to the comments section and slammed her boyfriend for keeping his job a secret
People on the web flocked to the comments section and slammed her boyfriend for keeping his job a secret.
One person said: 'Not the a**hole. He didn't tell you because he knew you wouldn't be okay with it.'
Someone else wrote: 'Not the a**hole. "Adult films" are definitely something you disclose to a potential partner before getting more serious in the relationship. Him brushing it off so casually is a huge red flag.'
Another user added: 'Not the a**hole. You're not judging the work; you're upset about the dishonesty. He kept a huge part of his life hidden for six months, and trust is key in a relationship. You set your boundaries, and that's valid.'
'Not the a**hole, I think it is kind of important to disclose the fact that you are a sex worker, and he is getting paid to cheat on you, and risk diseases on your behalf,' a fourth person said.
