By Daily Mail (U.S.) | Created at 2025-01-23 05:47:01 | Updated at 2025-01-23 12:15:40
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No relationship is perfect, but one couples' counsellor has shared the wholesome traits she has noticed in healthy relationships.
In a thread posted to X, formerly known as Twitter, Comfort Omovre, a certified counsellor, shared the 15 things people in a healthy and happy relationship posses.
The Canadian-based expert first listed having a 'resounding, frequent and genuine appreciation' for each other.
'I've found this common in every successful relationship I've been privileged to witness, including mine. Successful couples are loud about how much they appreciate each other, express their gratitude frequently over the big and especially little things, and they always mean it when they say, "Thank you,"' she shared.
She then lists having habitual affectionate gestures as an important factor - explaining successful couples are always 'reassuring one another of their affections through wholesome, non-sexual physical contact.'
The next traits are having respect and admiration for each other as well as establishing healthy boundaries.
'They understand that boundaries can be a tool for fostering relationship health, as they're more about preserving one another's individuality and nurturing safe spaces, than creating separation,' she explained.
Comfort also noted healthy couples never fight 'dirty,' not attempt to hurt the other person intentionally.
Comfort Omovre, a certified counsellor, shared the 15 things people in a healthy and happy relationship posses
'They've mastered the art of healthy conflict resolution and as such, every misunderstanding brings them closer together,' she wrote.
The relationship expert then added 'acknowledgement of each other's autonomy' and 'effective communication' as the next two traits displayed.
'[They] listen actively,' Comfort explained. '[By] creating safe spaces to address both mundane and difficult matters with care and gentleness, rather than passive-aggressiveness, anger or just plain ol' silent treatment.'
Another tip the expert recommended was to be 'genuine' friends with your partner.
'They act silly, play games, tease and laugh together a lot,' she shared. 'If they weren't in love, they'd most probably still be friends.'
Comfort added that couples that got the distance also never stop dating, and continue to surprise and romance each other.
'The flame of romance is one that never goes out. It may dim from time to time, but they'll always get it dazzling once more,' she shared.
Her next tips are to always take your partner into consideration and to always seek to improve their sex lives.
The relationship counsellor has shared the wholesome traits she's noticed that successful couples display
Comfort's final tips include striking a balance between agreement and healthy compromise, assuring people it's normal for couples not to agree on everything - but adding that they should be able to reach a point of healthy compromise.
She then urged couples to make proper apologies, earnestly forgive and 'yield' to each other.
'Both parties are consistently doing what they can to carry their weight in the relationship, and, when necessary, the other's as well,' she advised.
'I guess the question you should be asking yourself now is, "Am I in a successful relationship?"' she wrote, concluding the lengthy thread.
'Especially if you and your partner are long term, because what determines the success of a relationship isn't merely it is longevity, but most importantly, its substance,' she said.
The thread went viral online, where users praised the counsellor for her wise words.
'I read everything and it gives me reassurance that my partner and I are indeed in a successful relationship,' one enthusiastic person wrote.
'I took copious notes. I appreciate the guidance,' gushed another.
