By Daily Mail (U.S.) | Created at 2024-09-25 15:14:20 | Updated at 2024-09-30 21:33:52
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A woman has clapped back after facing backlash over a controversial TikTok video, where she said she refused to let her husband's death 'ruin' the rest of her life.
Holly Smith, 28, unexpectedly lost her husband in April after he suffered from a heart attack and passed away at only 31.
In a TikTok video posted on September 15, Holly posted a short clip showing her baking with her five- and two-year-old kids, responding to comments people had left asking her why she acts like 'everything's fine' when her husband is dead.
In a voiceover, the mom-of-two, from Morganton, North Carolina, responded saying: 'Because he's not my God.
'Because one guy dying isn't going to ruin the rest of my life.'
Holly Smith, 28, unexpectedly lost her husband in April after he suffered from a heart attack and passed away at only 31
'One bad thing isn't going to ruin you either. What has happened that leads you to think that everything is feeling bad and dark and depressy?' she continued.
'We got to fix it, you got to root it out. You got to start walking toward something better,' she said.
The video was met with waves of criticism, many shocked over her seemingly cavalier attitude towards her significant other's death.
'"One guy dying" he's so much more to me then one guy he's my life, my soul mate, my one true love. Without him it would crush me I'd never be fine again,' one user responded.
'I've invested 10 yrs of my life, my babies, home and future in my husband... if he died tomorrow, my world would be completely frozen for years!!! Not even sure if I would want to love again,' another user responded.
Holly replied to the comment, writing' 'I did too. 10 years of my life gone and I didn't choose that. I just get to choose how I respond.'
Others sympathized with Holly and cautioned her to listen to her own emotions while looking out for her kids.
'It's hard to compare grief to imaginary grief. Your behavior doesn't reflect the love you have for your husband. I totally understand & I'm proud you are able to continue to live life because it's very hard,' a user wrote.
In a voiceover, the mom-of-two, from Morganton, North Carolina, responded, controversially saying: 'One guy dying isn't going to ruin the rest of my life.' However, the mom has responded saying she's keeping positive for her children (pictured)
People sympathized with Holly and cautioned her to listen to her own emotions while looking out for her kids
They continued: 'If we let death consume us to show we really loved the person we wouldn't want to be here anymore or be a good mama to our kids and there is no changing it so u have to learn to live with it and accept it.'
'I tried this approach when my brother died and six months later had a full on break down. Please take care of yourself,' urged another.
However, in an interview with Today, Holly says she doesn't get defensive over the comments on her video, and is trying to see the positives, as well as not grieving.
'I know that the way I think is different from how other people think,' she shared with the publication.
'I have mourned the loss of my husband. I have mourned the loss of my marriage and the nine years that we spent building a life together,' the mom continued. 'But grief, to me, sounds like pain and suffering.'
Holly is also trying to pass her positive energy down to her two kids, saying she focuses on the positive memories of their dad.
'I talk about all his good qualities and how my kids can also use those in their life,' she shared.
The loving wife admitted when her husband passed away the 'entire framework' for her life was gone.
'I had everyone telling me how bad everything was, and I had been spending a lot of time in prayer with the Lord and reading the Bible. And the Bible says you get to win in life, so I just stood on that, and it is making people angry,' she shared.
