My best friend's gobsmacking sex confession has upended our friend group... how could a self-respecting woman do such a thing: DEAR JANE

Dear Jane,

My friend group is incredibly close and we would do anything for each other.

It's a boundary – or rather, lack thereof – that one of us has now put to the test.

My best friend just went on vacation with our other friends, a married couple, for a long weekend.

When she returned, she eagerly told me she had a 'wild' story to share from their trip – and, to put it lightly, I was not ready for what came next.

Apparently, the three of them were very intoxicated on one particularly rowdy night when the wife pulled my friend aside and made the strangest request.

She wanted my friend to sleep with her husband.

The wife said there were certain 'sexual favors' she doesn't like to do for her husband. So, she wanted to let him have his cake and eat it too.

To my shock, my friend agreed to do it, and insisted it wasn't the slightest bit awkward after.

I couldn't believe she would willingly do that, let alone with people we regularly hang out with.

These people are like family to me and, when we all went out to dinner the other night, I felt so awkward that I could barely look the husband in the eye.

I know I need to get over this, but I just don't know how to not feel uncomfortable whenever I'm around them.

Sincerely,

Three's a Crowd

Dear Three's a Crowd,

Oh, the problems that arise when we overshare with our friends.

Years ago, a woman I knew showed up at my house for tea and informed me that my best friend in the world had a one-night sexual dalliance with her husband. 

She told me how disgusting she thought my best friend was, and that I shouldn't be friends with her.

I was in much the same position as you are now. I wasn't willing to dump my best friend, but I couldn't continue the friendship without talking to her. 

At the very least, I needed her to be aware that I knew.

I took my friend out for lunch, and – very gently and without judgment – told her. My friend burst into tears and told me her version of the story.

You are in a similar situation and, while you are shocked, these are adults who engaged in fully consensual behavior.

You may judge it or see them in a different light, but there is nothing intrinsically wrong with what they did.

It's unfortunate that your friend chose to bring you in on the secret, but it is now up to you to decide whether or not you can live with it. 

I would imagine that, as time passes, it will become easier for things to go back to normal but, if not, you are within your rights to decide that this isn't a friendship that can continue. 

You can also tell them that you know, which may be the best solution and may help ease your discomfort.