By The Daily Caller (Opinion) | Created at 2024-11-15 22:23:50 | Updated at 2024-11-21 16:59:03
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November 15, 2024 4:46 PM ET
Allison Holker, widow of the late Stephen “tWitch” Boss, hard-launched her new romance with CEO Adam Edmunds on Nov. 14.
The “Dancing With The Stars” contestant shared a photograph of the two of them together, alongside a lengthy caption. Holker was married to tWitch for 9 years. The famous DJ, dancer and choreographer was best known for appearing regularly on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” and died by suicide Dec 13, 2022. My beef is not that she moved on — that’s her choice. The issue is the bizarre desire to make a spectacle of something that is so sensitive and completely unnecessary.
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – DECEMBER 05: (L-R) Allison Holker and Stephen “tWitch” Boss pose in the IMDb Exclusive Portrait Studio at The Critics Choice Association 5th Annual Celebration of Black Cinema & Television at Fairmont Century Plaza on December 05, 2022 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Michael Rowe/Getty Images for IMDb)
Holker had already soft-launched the relationship by sharing an image to Instagram in August. It was a photograph of two silhouettes holding hands, presumably her and Edmunds. That may have been a soft way of introducing the public to the thought that she was dating again. Perhaps she was feeling sensitive about being seen with someone else and this was her way of breaking the news.
The pair also showed up in public together in September at the 2024 New York Fashion Week.
The hard-launch is fair-game, though. The feedback has been positive, but why would she even invite the public to weigh in on this?
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – AUGUST 14: Allison Holker attends the Premiere of Netflix’s “Emily in Paris” Season 4 Part 1 at The Egyptian Theatre Hollywood on August 14, 2024 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic) Getty Images
Don’t get me wrong; Holker deserves happiness. It does seem to be coming at a fast pace, though, and some may disagree with me, but it really doesn’t seem like a piece of information that warrants a broadcast. Her husband committed suicide and she hasn’t even had two full years to process the depths of that alongside Weslie, Maddox and Zaia, the three children she shared with tWitch. This is a deep wound and a time of transition.
NEW YORK, NEW YORK – SEPTEMBER 07: Allison Holker (L) attends the alice + olivia by Stacey Bendet Spring 2025 Presentation at Highline Stages on September 07, 2024 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images for alice + olivia)
Contrary to the current unwritten laws of social media, I don’t believe everything needs to be shared. tWitch’s death is still a soft spot for many people, and presumably his immediate family remains impacted by the loss. If she felt it appropriate to be romantically connected to another man at this stage, that’s her personal decision and the topic doesn’t need to enter the public domain.
I don’t blame people that are happy for her. I am too. I also don’t blame critics for thinking this is too soon and too sensitive, as I agree with them too. There’s no right or wrong here, but there is a lot of oversharing that invites these discussions, and that doesn’t have to be the case. It is possible to live our lives just for ourselves, and I recommend that more people try it. (RELATED: Official Ruling Made In Liam Payne’s Death: REPORT)
My message is that there’s no need for the hard-launch. Social media can survive without it, and I’m sure Holker can too.
